The 10 things ALL dads-to-be NEED to know to NAIL their job as birth partner!

The 10 things ALL dads-to-be NEED to know to NAIL their job as birth partner!

There's this stupid 'stereotype' image of men as birth partners (massively reinforced by TV) that makes us think 'sitting on their phone in a corner'.. 'making stupid jokes and unhelpful comments' or 'fainting at the first sign of water, or blood or baby goo!' and this throws up the question 'do we even WANT men at our birth'?

But, every single dad-to-be that I meet on one of our courses is squashing this stereotype time and time again! They WANT to be part of that team around you in labour, they want practical, tangible tools to help both physically and emotionally and if they could do this for you, they would!

So they think you're having a 'big' baby?

So they think you're having a 'big' baby?

My baby is the right size for my body ❤️

Hands up anyone who’s been told their baby is ‘too big’ so they ‘have’ to be induced? I want to share a direct quote from the NICE guidelines (that should be followed by all hospitals) to clear this up!

The REASON we want a quiet, undisturbed birth is so we can utilise this...

The REASON we want a quiet, undisturbed birth is so we can utilise this...

The Fetal Ejection Reflex.

In the final stages of an undisturbed labour, the fetal ejection reflex is triggered, causing powerful, involuntary, expulsive contractions that enable us to birth our babies. As our baby moves through the pelvis, they will stimulate the nerve endings and initiate this incredible response within our bodies. At this point in labour you will have a huge surge in adrenalin, again contributing to initiating the fetal ejection reflex (thought to be so we have both energy for this moment, and that we become alert immediately after birth in order to protect our newborn babies!). In hospital settings, we sometimes see an external trigger for adrenalin production (such as discussions around instrumental birth or new people entering a room) cause this response too, as our bodies 'sense danger' and decide that baby is better out than in! It's important to note that surges in adrenalin earlier on in labour would have a different effect entirely, and usually causes labour to slow down or ‘stall’, because evolutionally the safest thing to do would be to ‘get away from the danger’.. so I wouldn’t recommend external triggers for adrenalin!!

Positive Birth Story: IVF pregnancy story

Positive Birth Story: IVF pregnancy story


Positive IVF Birth Story

Really delighted to be able to share Clare and Tom’s birth story with you today. After taking a private hypnobirthing course with myself, Clare and Tom felt empowered to ask for the support they needed from their healthcare team to get the birth they so wanted. Some hospitals, including theirs, recommend couples with an IVF pregnancy to give birth on the labour ward, (interestingly, others dont!). After discussing their options and the risks and benefits of each birth place with their healthcare team, Clare and Tom felt supported to opt for a Birth Centre birth! This story demonstrates so beautifully how The Positively Birthing Courses help in ways so much more than just ‘tools to use in labour’. Over to Clare for their story!

How to reduce tearing during labour!

How to reduce tearing during labour!

One of the biggest fears of pregnant women is tearing during birth, so it’s helpful to know that there are thing we can do in both pregnancy and labour to reduce the chances of tearing.

So you've got to give birth on the Labour Ward?

So you've got to give birth on the Labour Ward?

Wave goodbye to hypnobirthing and a positive birth then right? WRONG! If being on the Labour Ward feels like a safe and positive choice for you, then there is PLENTY you can do to make it positive.

Do we actually WANT control of our birth?

Do we actually WANT control of our birth?

One of the first activities we run through on all the Positively Birthing courses is a list.. a list of things we ‘do want’ and things we ‘don’t want’ in our births.. it’s something that’s always incredibly personal from couple to couple, sometime’s its very practical things, sometimes much more emotional, but there’s something that almost ALWAYS comes up- CONTROL. And this is one that takes a bit of unpicking.

Positive Birth Story: VBAC of baby number 2

Positive Birth Story: VBAC of baby number 2

I am delighted to be able to share Rebecca’s Positive VBAC story with you today. Hypnobirthing gave her the tools to trust her body and take control of the decision making in her birth. What a supermummy!

Positive Birth Story: An Informed and Calm Induction

Positive Birth Story: An Informed and Calm Induction

I went in to be induced at 10am on the Tuesday and had the propess at 12pm. Unfortunately the initial CTG suggested that Lara wasn’t coping very well so we needed continuous monitoring, which I found very restrictive as had to stay pretty static.  I was able to go for a walk round the hospital at about 4ish and that really helped my outlook (it was good to get mobile and get some fresh air). At 5 I put my hypnobirthing tracks on my headphones and Richard and I cuddled up on the hospital bed to make the most of the relative lack of movement. Within 1/2 hour my waters had broken, and I definitely think the relaxation of the hypno tracks helped get me in the zone! 

10 Steps to a Positive Induction Birth

10 Steps to a Positive Induction Birth

 

Most recent figures from the NHS show that women now have a 1 in 3 chance of having their labours induced, and only 52% of women’s labours start spontaneously. Induction numbers have crept up by over 10% in the past 10 years, and if trends continue over the next 10 years, we’ll potentially have less women going into spontaneous labour than having inductions and planned c-sections! A sad state of affairs for sure, but therefore something, as pregnant women, we should definitely be prepared for. If you’re facing an induction of labour, how can you make that as positive an experience as possible?